This weekend, I spent time with 30+ women in one of the most beautiful houses that I’d ever seen.
I want you to stop and think about that for just a minute. 2 years ago, I didn’t know 30 women, let alone like that many people. I thought that in order to fit in with the society that was constructed around me, I had to shut others out and never leave my house. Something about that never sat right with me.
You see, I’m an introverted high “S” (of the DISC personality scale) and in order for me to be happy, I have to serve others (then go sit in a quiet corner by myself to recharge). I also have the military brat background which means fitting in is almost never the answer.
The desire to fit in is something we’re all guilty of at one time or another. It’s biological and that’s understandable. What isn’t understandable and acceptable is shutting others out, destroying dreams, and monotony. We need COLOR. We need dreams. WE, need to know that it’s an AMAZING THING to chase something BIG and fail. Dreaming vicariously through others won’t change us or our circumstances, it makes things worse. If you want something better, you have to be better. YOU have to change first. Sometimes that means NOT fitting in and taking the advice of those that want to keep you safe. More often than not, it means being uncomfortable and stepping outside of your comfort zone. Sounds miserable doesn’t it?
It’s not. Sure, at first it’s hard because for so long you’ve heard that there is only one way to make life good and you’re going against that. You have to have faith that there’s a rainbow at the end of the yellow brick road. More importantly, you have to have faith in your God above.
There’s a joke that I’ll hear every so often about a guy that’s trapped in a flood. He climbs to the top of his house and while sitting on the roof with the water rising, he prays “God, please don’t let me drown.” 5 minutes later, a boat comes along and tries to save him. He waves them along saying “God is going to rescue me.” 5 more minutes pass and a helicopter drops a ladder down to rescue him. Again, he passes saying, “God is going to save me.” The water kept rising and the man drowns. When he gets to heaven, he asks God “Why didn’t you save me! I prayed to you, why didn’t you save me?!” God looks at him and responds “I sent you a boat and a helicopter, what more could I have done to save you?!”
As an outsider, we can all laugh and see that the boat and helicopter were God’s way of saving this man. How often though, have you prayed for something to change, and overlooked something because you think it’s “not for you” or God will bring you something perfect for you at that moment. Here’s what I want you to remember. God doesn’t always bring you opportunities for you at that exact moment. Sometimes, the opportunities presented are meant to make you stretch or grow into the person you’re supposed to be and maybe, that person doesn’t fit in the way that you do now.
I look back at the woman I was 2 year ago and the woman I am now and the difference is night and day. I know that I’m becoming the person that God wanted me to be. I’m becoming a leader, and a servant to others. I’ve braver than I have ever been, and more importantly, I belong more than I fit in. Now, I’m a firm believer that belonging is far more crucial to happiness than fitting in. Belonging offers hope. Hope offers the chance to chase dreams that you’d forgotten about and more importantly, hope is the beginning of happiness. I’m happy and hopeful because I stepped out of my comfort zone despite being an introvert and not being able to sell things or knowing nothing about makeup. I’m happy and hopeful because I allowed God to present an opportunity for change and I TOOK it.
Take 5 minutes. What’s been presented to you that you’ve been ignoring because it doesn’t match your current self perspective? Who can you reach out to today to change your life and the life of everyone else you love?