About a month ago, I picked up a book called “300 Writing Prompts” in an effort to get back into the habit of writing on a somewhat regular basis. Today, I actually opened it and one of the ideas that struck a cord was this prompt: Describe something that requires your patience today. That made me laugh out loud. Ordinarily I would have had some smart response about my daughter pushing buttons or being 4 but today that’s not it.
I find myself struggling to be patient with those that call themselves adults. People that are inconsiderate to the needs or wants of others. People that leave things broken in their wake and continue on without a care in the world. Don’t get me wrong. Adulting is hard, and it requires work like most anything else in life. At what point though do we begin to hold people accountable for their actions and decisions to emotionally destroy others? When do we decide that adults need to behave as such and it is no longer our responsibility to care for them as we did when they were children? Why are so many silent when others carry on like fools?
I get it though. Albert Einstein once said that the definition of insanity is repeating the same behavior and expecting different results. Perhaps you’re one of those people that have tried to talk sense into a particularly irresponsible human being disguising themselves as an adult. You’re exhausted. Constantly battling the traits of narcissism can damage one’s sense of peace, self confidence and world view. Eventually you give up, not only on them, but yourself as well. What’s so wrong with you that you can’t fix them?
Today, I want you to transfer that patience that you’ve been dedicating to the 4 year olds traipsing around as adult and gift it to yourself. Applaud your ability to love without borders, then love yourself enough to create them. Praise how far you’ve come despite whoever has discouraged your progress and KEEP GOING. Be patient with your success because I promise it will come. Wish them well and walk away. Give yourself the ability to be patient with your children, pets, spouse, extended family and occupation. You are worth it.